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When You Feel Like Giving Up

We all struggle with keeping New Year’s resolutions. By February, you haven’t seen the changes you wanted and your loosing motivation. Maybe it’s worse than that. Maybe you’ve already given up. You say to yourself, yeah, that didn’t work or…I failed at that one! Is this where you really want to be?

If your goal was to loose x amount of weight by the end of January and you didn’t reach it…If your goal was to quit snacking late at night every night and you still give in…If your goal was to read more and you just can’t find time to sit and pick up your book… wait…these are my goals that I still haven’t obtained yet…

Then this is what we do to keep moving forward:

Create a smaller goal. 

Have you ever heard of the saying ‘your eyes were bigger than your stomach’? This comes into play when you put way too much food on your plate and truly believed you were that hungry. Well, this can happen when setting goals too. It’s important to have smaller goals that can lead us and build us to our big goals.

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Going from snacking every night to no snacking at all is a bit unreasonable. (well, for me anyway…) Quitting anything cold turkey is bound for set backs. Instead, I’m allowing myself to snack 2-3 nights a week. It’s getting to a point now where I don’t really even want the snacks on my snack days. Making this small goal took the pressure off and made my no snacking every night goal a reality.

Get Support.

A rising tide lifts all ships. It’s a simple statement that creates a huge impact. When you surround yourself with like minded people, you will reach your goals faster then if you do it alone.

My health adventure started really when I was a baby but that’s a long story for another day. I knew I needed someone to help hold me accountable to actually make any decent progress. So in late 2015 I decided to join an online fitness group. This group of women inspired me so much I actually started waking up at 5 am to get my work out in before my family woke up. Then, I had to step away from it all due to an extreme amount of dental work. (10 months worth of work…yeah…ugh is the understatement of the year on that) When that was finally over, I decided to get back to working out…but this time on my own. Long story short, that went no where. Then after taking another break due to an unexpected surgery, I knew when it was time to pick it back up again I needed help. That’s when my new #fitfamily has stepped in and is literally changing my life. I’ll dive into this another day, but really. Whether it’s a group of people or just one person, don’t do this alone.

Adjust & Give Yourself Grace.

This goes alongside making smaller goals. Life happens…big eyes happen…reality sets in. Now is the time to reflect on what you did in January and make any adjustments needed to get you to your next goal in February.

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I’ve realized I’m not just going to sit and pick up a book in the evenings, I’m just too tired. So, now I’ve scheduled it in when my son has to do his 30 minutes of reading homework. He loves to read and now this is something we can do together. The first time I sat next to him to read he said, “Mom, what are you doing?” “I’m going to sit with you and read my book too. Is that okay with you?” His eyes lite up and with excitement he said “That would be great mom!” and gave me a big hug. Yes. Please.

Friends, if you feel like giving up… if you feel like you set unattainable goals or feel like a failure. Stop. Take a deep breath and let it go. Think about how you can move forward because it’s way too early to even think about giving up.

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